Some Characteristics of Safe and Unsafe People
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Safe
Unsafe
Listens to you
Don't Listen
Hear you
Don't hear
Make eye contact
No eye contact
Accept the real you
Reject the real you
Validate the real you
Invalidate the real you
Non-judgmental
Judgmental
Are real with you
False with you
Clear
Unclear
Boundaries appropriate and clear
Boundaries unclear, messages mixed
Direct
Indirect
No Triangles
Triangle - in others
Supportive
Competitive
Loyal
Betray
Relationships authentic
Relationship feels contrived
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Not all of these characteristics are absolute. For example, some people who make eye contact, listen to you and are supportive may still be unsafe. And a safe person may be unclear at times. However, over time, these characteristics and others may be helpful in differentiating who is safe and who is unsafe.

Have you met anyone who feels safe to you?

Do you know anyone now who feels safe?

Safe People in My Life
From My Past






In My Present

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Unsafe People in My Life
From My Past






In My Present
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Adapted from Charles Whitfield's Best-Selling book A Gift to Myself
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Content copyright (c) 2003, 2009 Charles L. Whitfield. All Rights Reserved
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